Always say “YES”

If you come from a place of no, you’ll end up middle-of-the-pack with the rest of the people who are content to be average. If you want to excel, stand out, and be successful, you’ll always say yes to new opportunities, new experiences, and new challenges.

Typically what happens with women is they start worrying about hypothetical situations that might never happen. Women worry about whether they have the skills to do this, the time to do it, whether they have enough information, or even if they’re the right person for the job. Read More


Always over-deliver

Whatever job you’re in, whoever you’re working for, always, always OVERDELIVER. You must outwork your co-workers and colleagues in order to get noticed and stand out in the crowd. This doesn’t mean getting people coffee and photocopying stuff, that’s kiddie stuff. I’m taking about asking for more challenging assignments, working your butt off, doing a phenomenal job and singing your own praises. You must work on the big pay-off stuff, and leave the rest to the temps.

There’s absolutely NO POINT in over-delivering if you’re not letting everyone else know what an amazing job you’re doing.  Please, don’t believe that mythical idea that “the work should speak for itself….everyone will see what a great job I’m doing…”  NO THEY WON’T!! Read More



Books I love – “Knowing Your Value: Women, Money and Getting What You’re Worth”

“Knowing Your Value: Women, Money and Getting What You’re Worth” is written by Mika Brzezinski. Mika is the co-host of MSNBC’s Morning Joe and the author of a New York Times bestseller (her 1st book – All Things at Once).

I had seen her on TV before but didn’t know anything about her. This book is crazy good, and so surprising! A quick read, but stuffed with valuable information on being compensated for your worth in the market place. Read More


Learn how to network.

As a newly graduated PhD I went to a few networking lunches and was overwhelmed with undergraduates and M.A’s giving me their business cards just because I had graduated. At the end of the lunch I had 13 business cards and I didn’t know who any of them were.

I tossed out the business cards and went to another networking meeting.

I saw the same thing occur, except it was PhD’s throwing their cards to the post-doctoral students and newly hired Professors. I asked one Professor what he does with all the business cards and he just discreetly put a napkin over them and slid them into the wastebasket. That’s the hard truth. Read More


Social Media Mistakes.

The very 1st thing employers do when narrowing down candidates for a job interview is google them.  You can count on this. Potential employers will look through your Facebook page, your pictures, your Twitter feed, and LinkedIn.  They’ll look at your Instagram pictures and your Pinterest board. They’ll read your website or blog, and they’ll watch your videos on YouTube or Vimeo if you have them. Employers expect you to have a life outside of work, but what they don’t want to see is this….. Read More


How to negotiate your salary – Part 1

Why women don’t negotiate.

We’re nurturers, right? So, we’re not supposed to be warriors looking out for ourselves. We’re taught to be nice, play by the rules and wait our turn. Sadly, our turn never came and no one told us we didn’t need to ask permission to want more out of life. We’re people-pleasers, we don’t like to rock the boat or be seen as pushy or assertive.

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Job Hunting – You need to follow-up!

Follow-up!

A colleague of mine is hiring for a new sales position. He received 52 resumes. And not one person followed up with him! This is shocking to me.  I asked him what he’ll do with the resumes. He told me he’s not going to look through them at all. He responded “why would I make the effort to call them, when they haven’t made the effort to follow-up with me. It’s just basic job-hunting stuff.”

Yes, it is basic, but most people don’t put in enough effort, time and dedication to get the job they want. Read More


Don’t over explain.

When you’re asked why the project wasn’t completed, or why your paper was late, or why you deserve a raise, just answer the question with facts, not emotions. Don’t feel the need to constantly over-explain yourself. Brevity is key here.

Over-explaining distracts from your message, your confidence and it undermines your competence.

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When you hear the word “no”…..

When you hear the word “no,” what does it mean for you?

Typically for women, “no” means “NO. FOREVER AND ALWAYS, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO!”

When a man hears “no,” this is what they think: “Oh, ok, how can I go at this another way?” Or “I wonder how many ‘no’s’ it’ll take to get a “yes,” OR,OK, let me rephrase that, let me ask it in a different way.”

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Make up your mind! –What you sound like when….

Here’s what a typical female response sounds like….

“I’m not sure, but I think…”

“Perhaps we could try this way…”

“Maybe the reason this didn’t work is…”

“It’s sort of like…”

“Ah…ummmm….so,….like….”

“I’m not 100% sure.”

“Don’t quote me on this, but…”

“I don’t know.” Read More


Public speaking TIPS – Body Language

Your Posture. Don’t slouch. Stand tall, stand proud (sounds like an anthem or something.) Good posture projects confidence. Slouching makes you look unsure of yourself and by extension the material you’re presenting. You shouldn’t cross your ankles, cross your arms, lean forward on one arm, or hang on to the podium for dear life. Read More



Take a breath before you speak.

I’ve noticed a trend with public speaking, in my classroom, during conferences and in meetings…..it’s when people answer a question quickly, without pausing to reflect on their answers.

For some reason we seem to think that we have to answer everything, right NOW, because a pause or silence is so scary. But often what happens is that you start talking, then you start rambling, you’ve forgotten the point you were trying to make and then you just trail off without a conclusion. Read More