Do you think you’re a people pleaser? Take this quiz and find out.
Answer yes or no to the following questions. If you find yourself nodding in agreement and saying ‘hell yeah, I do that’…..guess what? You’re a people pleaser. Not to worry…..there’s a 12 step-program for that!
- When you receive an incorrect order at Starbucks or a restaurant, you never return it. You’ll never confront the waitress about it. And you usually still give a tip.
- You have a bunch of bridesmaid’s dresses in your closet, even though you couldn’t afford to be one, you couldn’t say no. You’ve been to a destination wedding….on your VISA.
- Your to-do list has never, ever, been completed. It’s 3 pages long.
- I feel like a doormat when I say yes. I always feel manipulated or used by others.
- I can’t remember the last time I said “no” to someone. I’m addicted to helping others.
- Saying “yes” all the time leaves me with no time for myself, my career, & my own work.
- I’m always worried about hurting other people’s feelings. I’m worried they won’t like me.
- I’m always concerned about how others perceive me. I don’t want to be perceived as rude, careless, egocentric, unhelpful, ungrateful.
- I’m always trying to be perfect.
- You allow others to change your mind in order to appear agreeable or to avoid conflict.
- I’m always worrying and stressing out. I have anxiety about what others are saying about me.
- I avoid confrontation & conflict at all costs. I never confront an issue with someone.
- I avoid discussing my feelings and keep them bottled up.
- I always feel guilty for saying “no”.
- I’m constantly apologizing. All. The. Time.
- I never stand up for myself.
- I don’t like criticism. I don’t handle constructive feedback well.
- I do everything myself, I rarely delegate to others.
- The more I help others out, the more I think they’ll like me.
- I’m way more critical of myself than of others.
- It’s very important to be liked by others.
- I hardly ever ask for help. It makes me uncomfortable to ask others to help me.
IF you’re a people pleaser, you’ll most likely answer “yes” to the majority of these questions.
See my post How to Stop Being a People Pleaser for TIPS on breaking this very negative habit.