People -Pleaser Quiz

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Do you think you’re a people pleaser? Take this quiz and find out.

Answer yes or no to the following questions. If you find yourself nodding in agreement and saying ‘hell yeah, I do that’…..guess what? You’re a people pleaser.  Not to worry…..there’s a 12 step-program for that!

  1. When you receive an incorrect order at Starbucks or a restaurant, you never return it. You’ll never confront the waitress about it. And you usually still give a tip.
  2. You have a bunch of bridesmaid’s dresses in your closet, even though you couldn’t afford to be one, you couldn’t say no. You’ve been to a destination wedding….on your VISA.
  3. Your to-do list has never, ever, been completed. It’s 3 pages long.
  4. I feel like a doormat when I say yes. I always feel manipulated or used by others.
  5. I can’t remember the last time I said “no” to someone. I’m addicted to helping others.
  6. Saying “yes” all the time leaves me with no time for myself, my career, & my own work.
  7. I’m always worried about hurting other people’s feelings. I’m worried they won’t like me.
  8. I’m always concerned about how others perceive me. I don’t want to be perceived as rude, careless, egocentric, unhelpful, ungrateful.
  9. I’m always trying to be perfect.
  10. You allow others to change your mind in order to appear agreeable or to avoid conflict.
  11. I’m always worrying and stressing out. I have anxiety about what others are saying about me.
  12. I avoid confrontation & conflict at all costs. I never confront an issue with someone.
  13. I avoid discussing my feelings and keep them bottled up.
  14. I always feel guilty for saying “no”.
  15. I’m constantly apologizing. All. The. Time.
  16. I never stand up for myself.
  17. I don’t like criticism. I don’t handle constructive feedback well.
  18. I do everything myself, I rarely delegate to others.
  19. The more I help others out, the more I think they’ll like me.
  20. I’m way more critical of myself than of others.
  21. It’s very important to be liked by others.
  22. I hardly ever ask for help. It makes me uncomfortable to ask others to help me.


IF you’re a people pleaser, you’ll most likely answer “yes” to the majority of these questions.

See my post How to Stop Being a People Pleaser for TIPS on breaking this very negative habit.

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