Letting Go – A Radical Process

I’m excited to welcome a GUEST POST by blogger and Body Positive Activist Carly McLeod.

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We all have a story — things that we carry around with us always. We cling to experiences, memories, moments, objects that have shaped us, and without really acknowledging that in a small, undetectable way, they continue to shape our futures. This collection becomes our origin story but also our trajectory.

Every wonder why you feel that each time you set out on a different path, you are sucked back into bad habits?

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Amy Schumer 160lbs and sexual

Here’s Amy Schumer accepting an award at the Glamour Women of the Year event last year. It’s an older clip, but a good one. Another example showing you don’t have to be 110 pounds to have confidence, to be sexual. A reminder that bodies come in different sizes. We’re all worthy of having confidence and sexuality. And damn it, beauty shouldn’t be the #1 goal for women. What about success? What about knowledge? What about smarts?

Our self-worth shouldn’t be tied to our appearance. Our confidence shouldn’t be bound by the inches of our hips.

The reason I love Amy Schumer so much is that she’s SO smart, SO witty, and SO empowered. She’s her own boss and she’s challenging the dominant notion that women’s worth is tied to their looks. She’s also prolific and writes, produces, acts, and does stand-up at such a ferocious pace that makes me want to step up my game.

(Now I need to find other videos examples, but with non-White women……much more difficult to find on-line….which is problematic, obviously)

Focus on your brain, not your skinny jeans!

How smart is this girl??  I love it!  Watch this 5 minute clip from the Stephen Colbert show.

Her name is Olivia Hallisey and she’s the winner of Google’s Science Fair. She’s 17 years old! So confident, so articulate and clearly passionate about what she does. And she invented a new test for Ebola!

These are the types of role models young girls & women need to be surrounded by. Science is cool. Being smart is cool. And wanting to talk about things other than your body weight, or cooking or calories…..is SO much cooler.

Mindy Kaling on confidence & hard work

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So, I just finished reading Mindy Kaling’s newest book “Why Not Me?” and the best part was really the last chapter where she discusses confidence and work ethic.

Basically, she argues that confidence is just entitlement, and you’re not entitled to anything in this life unless you work hard for it and produce results. You better deserve your confidence. Read More

Books I LOVE – “I can’t believe it’s not better” – By Monica Heisey

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OK, I have to stop reading other people’s books and finish my own! BUT, I needed some comedic relief and picked up “I can’t believe it’s not better: a woman’s guide to coping with life”, by writer and comedian Monica Heisey. Originally a Torontonian, she’s now a New Yorker…so both sides of the border love her.

Holy. Crap. I laughed so hard during her chapter entitled “The Yogurt Women,”  that I just had to post this. Like, I was crying, literally crying from laughing so hard. This was way beyond LOL stuff. Read More

Why you need to SELL yourself and Self-Promote.

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Selling is the art of persuasion, you’re inducing someone to buy something from you. To buy into your ideas, your product, your service, your brand and you. What’s wrong with that?  NOTHING. BUT damn, most women HATE selling. Just the idea of “selling” makes them feel uncomfortable.

Everywhere you go, you’re selling. And if you think you’re not selling, then someone is selling to you. (You’re being sold! and you don’t even realize it). Read More

Women I love – Rhonda Rousey

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So, I hate boxing, but I love Rhonda Rousey. Weird, right?  You can’t help but love Rhonda. She’s an mixed martial artist and judoka. She is UFC’s current Bantamweight champion. She has dominated every opponent in the ring. She was WON every single fight in the 1st round by an arm-bar move. Oh yeah, she also has an Olympic medal in judo (Summer 2008).

She started a female empowerment campaign called don’t be a “DO-NOTHING-BITCH.” 

And, she called out Floyd Mayweather for his wife-beating habits.  Not many men in sports broadcasting want to call Floyd Mayweather the abuser that he is…..and she did. Watch this 28 second video: Read More

Women I love – Fortune Feimster

I love that the Conan show always showcases such great comedic talent, veterans, newcomers, women (yes, women are FUNNY!).

I’ve seen this clip about 32 times. Every time I need a break from my work, I take 4 minutes and watch Fortune. I can basically recite her entire set.

Here is Fortune Feimster performing on the Conan O’Brien show February 2014.

Books I love…..RU by –Kim Thuy. (2015 Canada Reads Winner)!


RU is written by Kim Thuy and journals her life from the Vietnam war, to a Malaysian refugee camp, and then eventually to Montreal, Quebec. Her writing style is utterly unique and unlike anything you’ve read before as it’s poetic, lyrical, comedic, tragic and poignant.

Her writing makes you realize what a novice you are at the English language. Read More



So, I saw Trainwreck this weekend…..and guess what?   It’s SO good. I mean it’s great. When you compare it with the utter nonsense that is a typical Adam Sandler movie, I would have paid double to see Amy Schumer’s Trainwreck.

It’s witty, funny, amusing, & SO relatable.  I felt myself nodding in agreement or rather laughing hysterically and clapping my hands in unison with the packed theater.

It’s such a pleasure to watch a movie and not be kicking myself for wasting 2 hours of my life on garbage. This was insightful and such a great opportunity to support a woman, to be happy that another succesful woman is ascending the leadership ladder. She’s so talented, funny and prolific.

I love that she’s successful and hungry for more success and doesn’t feel she needs to apologize for her success.

I love Amy Schumer and you’ll love Trainwreck.


Watch “‘Inside Amy Schumer’: I’m Sorry” at New York Magazine

Take 5 minutes and watch this brilliant sketch by Amy Schumer entitled “I’m Sorry”. Then stop apologizing. Then reach out to the women in your lives and encourage them to stop apologizing for everything all the time.

I’ve reposted some of my favorite blogs all on the same theme of apologizing/how to ask questions, etc.

There’s a short Netflix commercial that I couldn’t figure out how to get rid of first.

Watch “‘Inside Amy Schumer’: I’m Sorry” at New York Magazine.