Create a winners’ circle


Do you have a  Winner’s Circle?  These are WINNERS you need to spend time with. As opposed to LOSERS (psst, stop hanging out with losers!).–We all have people who drag us down, but you can do something about it!

So, stop getting financial advice from other broke-ass people with four maxed-out credit cards and student debt they’ve been paying off for 12 years.  Read More

Modesty is useless for women


Quote by Tar Mohr, career coach

In a 2010 study analyzing the challenge of modesty for women, researchers found that it is more beneficial for a woman’s career to SELF-PROMOTE rather than to be modest about her accomplishments.

What we know is that women:

  1. Need to learn HOW to self-promote.
  2. Need to get over the comfortableness of self-promotion and stop viewing it as a negative, boastful or conceited thing.
  3. Need to support other women and share strategies on how to display accomplishments and the significance of these achievements.

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Pinksourcing with Kristen Bell

Why outsource North American jobs to other countries when the cheapest workforce is right here: WOMEN! Actress Kristen Bell advocates for the unfunny issue of women’s rights. (lack of equal pay, our obsession with being nice, with apologizing for EVERYTHING all the time, our reluctance to NEGOTIATE when signing a contract, our tendencies to just play by the rules, bring in baked goods for the office and hope someday, somewhere, somehow, somebody will notice all your hard work.)

Difference in magazine covers

What are your thoughts on these 2 magazine covers?




So, if you’re a GIRL I guess your goals are to:

  • wake up pretty! (because mornings are rough!)
  • have your first kiss!
  • get your denim checklist
  • get your “dream hair”
  • have fun and make friends

If you’re a BOY, it seems that your goals are:

  • EXPLORE your friggin’ future!
  • Do you want to be an astronaut?
  • Do you want to be a chef? Or firefighter?
  • Figure out what you want in life.

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Confidence Killers

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Confidence is a growth trait, meaning with practice you can grow this muscle. You can increase your self-esteem and confidence.

Part of growing your confidence is being aware of what kills your confidence (e.g. toxic or hurtful relationships).

If you grew up hearing how useless or stupid you were, you didn’t really get a chance to build a confidence reservoir.  Read More

Stop baking stuff for the office!

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Ladies! Could we please stop worrying about being liked and being nice, and start working on our careers, making more money and living our dreams?  And on that note, STOP BAKING STUFF FOR THE OFFICE!  –No joke, I know so many women who bake things for their office mates or boss. If you have time to bake cookies and scones and pies, then you’re not prioritizing your career. Because no one gets promoted based on their culinary skills unless you’re in the food business. Read More

Fat Talk, Body Talk, Diet Talk

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What is fat talk? It’s any disparaging dialogue about your body or weight. These can either be nega­tive comments (“I hate my stomach”) or positive ones (“Ugh, thank goodness I lost weight so now I can fit into my skinny jeans!”)[i]

Fat talk is a contagious type of conversation that most girls and women engage in. If we’re not directly disparaging our bodies, then we listen to other women do it. We participate in conversations that focus solely on our bodies, not our minds. Read More

Books I Love – the WAR of ART

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The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles is written by Seven Pressfield. Written in 2002, I just discovered this book this year.

IF you’re a procrastinator, this book is for you. IF you’re a creative person stuck in the body of a procrastinator, read this book.

IF you’re constantly giving excuses about why you haven’t worked hard enough or achieved success, this book is for you.

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Always #LikeAGirl – Unstoppable – YouTube

Are girls limited by what society tells them they can or can not do?  Yes they are.

This video by Always has been viewed over 38 million times and is about smashing limitations and encouraging confidence among young women.

This confidence stuff isn’t just for adults, or even tweens… starts so much younger.

Always #LikeAGirl – Unstoppable – YouTube.

Knowing your value and a little self-love

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You can build your confidence. You can develop your assertiveness. You can expand out of your comfort zone by taking risks. You can be courageous.

You can improve your public speaking skills. You can strengthen the tone of your voice. You can generate charisma and stage presence.

You can stop apologizing. Read More

Say “YES” to everything.

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If you’re just starting out your career, changing careers or starting your own business you need to say “YES” to every single opportunity and experience. Say “YES” immediately and figure it out later.

You need to look at every encounter or experience as an opportunity to sell, self-promote and get noticed.

Saying “YES” to opportunities is different from being a people-pleaser, a doormat or victim. I’m not saying to get used by others or to constantly do your work for free. No. This is different. Read More

Are you a people pleaser?

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People pleasers are SO nice. Aren’t they? They’re like the nicest people, ever. They never say “no,” they’ll always help you out & do you a favor. They’re be there whenever and wherever you need help.

The problem is, they never help themselves. They’re so overcommitted to everyone else and addicted to say “yes” to everyone and everything that their to-do list NEVER ends. This creates a cycle of anxiety, stress, depression (emotional eating!) and resentment. Read More

What is self-compassion?

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As women we’re SO hard on ourselves all the time. We ridicule ourselves for failing at a task, when we should be pumping ourselves up. We call ourselves names and endlessly berate ourselves for our mistakes, instead of figuring out why we messed up and how we can move on.

Intimately tied to our nagging negative voice is our level of self-compassion.

Well, what the heck is self compassion and why is it important for success? Read More